Very often I wonder, why can’t relationships just be simple and straightforward. Why does interpersonal relationships have to be full of lies, avoidance, skirting around what is thought to be ‘sensitive’ topics. Sometimes I think I spend so much mental effort trying to second guess what the other person is thinking, feeling, intending, that sometimes I have nothing left for myself. And most times all the extra effort spent on trying to pre-determine what the other person’s reaction to a situation or words are all useless, because the results are the exact opposite of all that scenario running that I’ve done in my head. All that torture, just to realise that, at the end of the day, maybe it would have been better to just sit down face to face, and have a good honest chat.
It also baffles me how people are proactively plotting against other people, even those who have done nothing to harm them, just to ‘get ahead in life’. Why do we feel the need to elevate ourselves (in our own eyes) by putting down others? Is our society to such an extent that we are no longer able to feel honest joy for the accomplishments of others?To others we may even call our friends?
Even in love, things are complicated. Whatever happened to being honest about your feelings instead of being constantly afraid? We all fear rejection to some degree, but it’s my opinion that the fear is always greatest in your mind. Say it out and you might just find that the situation isn’t as bad as you expected. Yet, we are so frightened of the imaginary scenarios that we’ve played out in varying horrifying degrees in our minds.
Maybe I’m just naive, and think too lowly of the complicated human emotions. Maybe I’ve been living in a greenhouse, unexposed to the traumas of hardship and other such terrible things in life. Ironic that, as a Psychology student, I’m lamenting the complications of humans. After all, that is what makes human behaviour interesting enough to have an entire discipline around it.
I think I’m probably just jaded from all the games I have to play, just because society seems to demand that I play these games. I think this is also the primary reason the pool of people I actually call my friends has been shrinking over the years.
已經萬年沒在ptt發文 要怎麼發我還找了很久 囧
說真的 蘇打綠有什麼歌 我還真的不清楚
It’s not all about you
最近是有改善 剛開始巡迴比較嚴重 （摳鼻）
（或許小威除外 畢竟他離觀眾席很遠 XD）
演唱會一開始，當Believe In Music 的音樂一下，熟悉的音樂真的讓我覺得能在自己國家看演唱會真的很幸福（被保安請求坐下有種莫名的歸屬感）。不知道是不是因為自己生病精神比較不好間接反射到表演者身上，但是總覺得前1/3場青峰的狀態並沒有到100%。忘詞、音不準都不是他常會發生的狀況。我在觀眾席還和小秋說青峰都不走過來我們這，我們沒辦法把僅有的能量傳到舞台上。抑或我們看習慣完美的演出，對一點點偏差就太過於敏感？
我深深感謝阿福掉mic的糗事，因為我覺得那件事情發生之後，青峰笑過之後狀態竟然好轉，接下來的也都是近乎perfect的表演。（鼓掌）我舅舅過世也有2個月了，心情平復點之後，聽到 小時候 就沒有再像高雄那場哭的稀里嘩啦無法停止。但是還是會思念過世的親人，希望他們現在無論在哪裡都過得很好。
當然，最後我還是有點到 白日出沒的月球啦！可是這已經是第三次點這首歌（’08 植物園，’12高雄，’12新加坡）卻還是沒聽到前面那段。結果還是沒有3rd time lucky～
我其實很愛看小威打鼓，就如同我也很愛看YO大打鼓一樣，純粹因為樂手玩得起勁我也會因為這樣情緒也被帶動起來。不用刻意耍帥，也不用去care是否有人在注意，只要be in the moment，這就是完美。就如彩虹樂團主唱hyde曾經在15週年演唱會說過，演唱會就好像一場orgy，而觀眾都是偷窺者。雖有點低俗（A，是hyde的本性），但仔細想想又何嘗不是？表演者在台上享受著表演的快感，而我們在觀眾席的就是在外圍往內看他們在enjoy。表演者越來越起勁，我們這些在看的，也越發興奮。當然，打綠和彩虹不一樣的是，他們是那種會break the 4th wall和觀眾互動的樂團。
Here it finally arrives, all One Thousand Two Hundred pages of kings, queens, lords, sellswords, knights, dwarfs, dragons and sex. And weeks of laptop backpacks just so I have 2 free hands to hold this damned book.
This article is an interesting read, whether you agree, disagree or neutral about it like I am. Of course it generalised too much. Yes, it’s stereotypical. It is definitely the perception of one person who’s traveled to a few countries.
Some of the comments that I read harp on the fact that America (or USA as they’d prefer) is such a large geographical area and everyone is different (duh). A few even mentioned that Americans from different states are totally different. I was tempted to reply that unfortunately, I can’t tell the difference. You can, because you’re American. To a non-American, honestly, I don’t quite know the difference nor care which state you’re from. Like Americans probably wouldn’t know (or care about) the difference between a Singaporean and a Malaysian.
There are some points I agree with the author about, and that mainly applies to those that discuss the narrow view of the world that most Americans have. Granted, their country is large and technically they don’t really need to care about the cultures in other countries, but sometimes it gets so ridiculous that it makes me laugh.
I work in a global organisation headquartered in the USA so I deal with folks from all over the world on a fairly regular basis, be it over the phone, emails or even face-to-face. Again, it’s a limited subset of folks I’ve met and only from the East Coast (since it is apparently a big difference) so by no means are my observations universal.
The number one thing that I’ve absolutely hated about Americans is their lack of empathy or understanding for time zones. Either they believe that everyone lives in the same time zone as them, or they think that everyone around the world needs to adhere to their timings. I’ve had meeting invites sent out for 3.30am my local time even though I’ve specifically stated that it’s GMT+8 where I live. Yet when I asked for a time that is more suitable, like 7pm their local time (which is still 7am on my end of the world) I’m requested to do the meeting where it’s 9pm for me. I guess this fits into the generalisation of “It’s not all about you, baby”..
I always feel the love when I visit the USA, especially when they ask me where I’m from (expecting some state in the USA) and I say I’m from Singapore. The exclamations of “You speak such good English”and “Is Singapore part of China?” amuse me very much. However, the best ones are always those comments about the ban on chewing gum (which is false by the way – you can chew. The ban is on selling, not chewing), or the excited remark of “Oh will I get caned for this?” whenever they do something mildly naughty (like throwing a cigarette butt on the floor). And in case you think that they are just being cheeky, trust me, they think it’s true.
Another amusing thing that often happens to me is that when I ask wait staff to repeat what they’ve just said, they automatically assume I couldn’t understand them because I’m Asian and so my English is very poor. They. Thus. Begin. To. Speak. Very. Slowly. Until I tell them in fluent English (and with a big smile) that I actually understand what they are trying to say, I just didn’t hear them in the first place. The looks on their faces were priceless.
I’ve always been glad that I was born and raised in Singapore, a small nation-state with no natural resources, as it’s allowed me the opportunity to travel overseas more often and see the world. I’m also glad I spent my teenage years around technology as I got the chance to understand the world via the internet. 😀
Ooo. Finally we get the Nike running app for Android. And it’s the GPS version and free!
Yeah. I know it’s all about big data right now, but this is a little too much.. Google Now Has Analytics-ish Reports for Your Personal Accounts.