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A Monumental Victory – For Love & Equality

There is only one thing I truly believe in – Equality.

I believe that we are all made equal in the eyes of the lord, no matter your religion. We are put on this earth for a reason and we each serve our own purpose. We inspire someone and make a difference to their lives. I do not believe in being prejudiced against someone simply because they are different.

Emotions such as love is, and should be, universal. Two willing parties fall in love and make the huge decision to want to spend the rest of their lives together, being the name that is written in the spouse section when filling out forms.Or even just to introduce their partner as their husband or wife, without having to feel guilty or judged. Everyone deserves to be treated the same in the eyes of the law, and nothing should get in the way of that.

We all deserve the right to love whoever we want. Nobody should have the right to take that away from us. Not especially if you are the majority. And I move to say that it is the responsibility of the stronger and more powerful majority to ensure that equal rights is something that is at the forefront of our minds. The majority needs to make the additional effort to understand and embrace the minority, because the minority has no choice but to assimilate. The majority is no more superior than the minority, the win is only in numbers.

We are who we are. It’s time for the majority to stop trying to change the minority to fit their idea of what is right. There is no right or wrong.

June 27th, 2015 – A day to remember, as we see the United States of America tell the rest of the world that they are still living the American Dream. Where everyone is free.

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Why can’t relationships be simple?

Very often I wonder, why can’t relationships just be simple and straightforward. Why does interpersonal relationships have to be full of lies, avoidance, skirting around what is thought to be ‘sensitive’ topics. Sometimes I think I spend so much mental effort trying to second guess what the other person is thinking, feeling, intending, that sometimes I have nothing left for myself. And most times all the extra effort spent on trying to pre-determine what the other person’s reaction to a situation or words are all useless, because the results are the exact opposite of all that scenario running that I’ve done in my head. All that torture, just to realise that, at the end of the day, maybe it would have been better to just sit down face to face, and have a good honest chat.

It also baffles me how people are proactively plotting against other people, even those who have done nothing to harm them, just to ‘get ahead in life’. Why do we feel the need to elevate ourselves (in our own eyes) by putting down others? Is our society to such an extent that we are no longer able to feel honest joy for the accomplishments of others?To others we may even call our friends?

Even in love, things are complicated. Whatever happened to being honest about your feelings instead of being constantly afraid? We all fear rejection to some degree, but it’s my opinion that the fear is always greatest in your mind. Say it out and you might just find that the situation isn’t as bad as you expected. Yet, we are so frightened of the imaginary scenarios that we’ve played out in varying horrifying degrees in our minds.

Maybe I’m just naive, and think too lowly of the complicated human emotions. Maybe I’ve been living in a greenhouse, unexposed to the traumas of hardship and other such terrible things in life. Ironic that, as a Psychology student, I’m lamenting the complications of humans. After all, that is what makes human behaviour interesting enough to have an entire discipline around it.

I think I’m probably just jaded from all the games I have to play, just because society seems to demand that I play these games. I think this is also the primary reason the pool of people I actually call my friends has been shrinking over the years.

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Why can’t they understand?

In the case of the Repeal of Section 377A, homosexuals are NOT campaigning for the rights to rule the country. They are not campaigning for the right to have same-sex marriages. They are just campaigning for the right to maintain privacy behind doors, and the right to do what they please without breaking the law.

When I read Mr Ho Kwon Ping’s article on TODAYonline yesterday, I was pleased to see the Chairman of Mediacorp stand up for what he believes in, to the extent of putting it up on national papers, though it isn’t The Straits Times. I applaud but honestly, I don’t think anyone in the rainbow club will believe that it will change anything.

Today, however, I came across this other article written in response to Mr Ho’s commentary. And with all due respect, I’m afraid I have to say, this is something about Christianity I don’t understand. I thought God teaches us to love all brothers and sisters unconditionally? That was what I was taught in 10 years of convent education. Of course, my education is far from the tip of the iceberg. But that was one consistent teaching I was given for 10 whole years of my primary to secondary life. Isn’t this prejudice & discriminatory? I don’t remember the Ten Commandments having anti-homosexuality in it. But of course, I have only wikipedia and the movie to guide me. Please, correct me if I’m wrong. I’m not well versed in Bible studies. Anyway, before I digress further, the point of this post is NOT about Christianity & homosexuality.

Mr Anton Chan has it all wrong. And I’m sure he’s not alone. Singaporeans have become so paranoid that they seem to think that everything that goes against their perception of normal is dangerous. Then again, philosophically speaking, what is normality? The Merriam Webster dictionary explains normal as b: conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern. Normality is relative.

What’s next? Same sex marriages?
Letter from Anton Chan

MR HO Kwon Ping is wrong to propose the acceptance of gays into Singapore society because accepting a gay lifestyle would have a tremendous impact on society as a whole in terms of religious beliefs, social well-being and families.

Being homosexual isn’t a lifestyle. Taking on a certain lifestyle means you have a choice. You pick & choose what type of actions you’d like to adopt. Being sporty is a lifestyle; clubbing is a lifestyle. Homosexuality is not. It’s a sexual orientation. You don’t pick & choose who you decide to fall in love with. Not unless you live in the past where nobody marries for love, only convenience. Yes, there are choices made. A choice of accepting yourself or not. That is the only choice to be made.

As a Christian, I oppose legalising a gay lifestyle in Singapore because it’s against my beliefs. As a father of three teenagers, I care because I don’t want my children to be affected by such a lifestyle.

Honestly, if your kid is gay, he’s gay. No matter whether you expose him to such a ‘lifestyle’ or not. If he is being oppressed to be straight, he’s going to suffer real pain inside. Furthermore you are opposing ‘legalising a gay lifestyle’ but we are for the legalising of an act, which is mutally consented between two adult males.

Imagine if we allow the acceptance of such a lifestyle in Singapore. What next? Legalise same sex marriages? Legalise adoption of children for gays?

Ah… I dont understand this line of thought. So, Belgium, Canada, Norway, South Africa, Spain, Massachusetts and California are all what.. beneath everyone else? Just because they legalise same-sex marriages? The last I know, Canada is a great place to live in.

Where are we as a socially-conservative society heading towards?

Erm… Acceptance of all as one? Liberalisation?

Soon gays will claim the right for social acceptance in all areas including education, welfare et cetera. What effect will this have on the next generation of children and parents who wish that their children will grow up normally and produce children in the normal course of their being?

In the first place, all Singapore citizens have the right in all areas such as education, welfare etc. So if I read this right, you’re suggesting that homosexuals are not supposed to be entitled to benefits that are given to ALL citizens? So they are, in your books, third-class ‘citizens’? Now I’m starting to get the picture. Also, your point of ‘produce children in the normal course of their being’ isn’t standing much. Heterosexuals are not having kids anyway, so what’s the fuss? If heterosexuals aren’t having kids and homosexuals would love to adopt one, hey! Good for the country’s population growth! 1 for the gays!

The only strong contention in Mr Ho’s proposal is the so-called gay leading edge in the “creative class”. Doesn’t our society have many other people to develop and nurture? Why are we so eager to promote creative class talent in Singapore? So that we can become a more tolerant society to accept whatever lifestyle these bring? Definitely no.

‘Why are we so eager to promote creative class talent in Singapore?’ I think that’s because if otherwise, Singaporeans will be nothing but robots toiling away at work. Your national day parade won’t look so grand & well put together, you won’t have performances to watch, no designers, no artists, no musicians. No Dick Lee! Oh then again, we could always import foreign talent, to put together our national day parade.

I would like to borrow a similar argument by Attorney-General Walter Woon regarding the Human Organ Transplant Act (Hota). In “None above the law” (Sept 8), he said: “If Dr Lee (Wei Ling) disagrees with Hota, she is at perfect liberty to campaign to have it amended … But until Parliament amends or repeals the Hota and the Oaths and Declarations Act, they remain the law of Singapore.”

If anyone disagrees with the law for gays as enacted by Parliament, he/she is at perfect liberty to campaign to have it amended … But until Parliament amends or repeals the law of Singapore for gays, it remains the law of Singapore.

The thing is, the law is quite ridiculous if you don’t enforce it. What’s the point of having a law that is in black & white, yet you tell everyone in the country that you will not be prosecuting the offenders? It’s like saying rape is illegal yet people are free to do it. So why is it illegal in the first place?

It’s hypocritical to have a law to make conservatives happy, and turn around and tell those affect that they will not be prosecuted, so please continue to bring back glory for the country. Please continue to make waves in the international scene. Singapore wants to be number 1 in everything, but no, we will not repeal Section 377a. As the government, they should be doing what they preach. Singapore is conservative? Okay fine. Then prosecute all who do not abide by the law and stick to it. Don’t want to encroach on their privacy so will not prosecute? Then don’t even have this law in the first place. What a cognitively dissonant country we live in. *Sigh*

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A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila

Okay.. So I slept at 3am yesterday, or rather, today. All because of one woman, one show. MTV’s “A Shot At Love with Tila Tequila”.

Firstly, who is Tila Tequila??? Tila’s what they call internet celebrity. She got famous on MySpace and then spurned off a career of apparently modeling and singing. None of which probably really took off. She’s like the more slutty & bitchy & famous version of Xia Xue.She’s also got better looking ass than her but that’s beside the point.

What is the show about? In public it’s Tila’s quest for true love… *rolleyes* And because she is, get this, BISEXUAL, she gets 16 straight men & 16 lesbians to come on the show to fight for her heart. Because she doesn’t know what gender she wants to end up with. Riiiiigggghhhhttttt….

The show is hilariously funny & I’d say it has all the elements of a great reality TV series. There is lots of hot men & women, drama, tears, scream and hair tearing, pushing, fighting, kissing, making out, booze.. ALL THE WORKS. All in one 10 episode show. And obviously lots of skin. And catfight. Oooooo I love catfights. We women really know how to fight.

But anyway, the show ended with Bobby (CUTE AS HELL) winning. Here come the big BUT. Apparently, he broke up with her a few days before New Year’s Eve and she had to announce it during her NYE masquerade party. AND at the same time, announcing that she’s coming back for “A Shot At Love” Season 2. Puuuuurrrrfect timing.

So now everyone’s talking about it.. Just Google “Tila Tequila Bobby Broke Up” and you get a whole string of results. Some of the comments are hellava funny. Seriously guys.. Did anyone EVER think that they will actually work out? Come on….. Gimmie a break. It’s Reality TV for goodness sake. Has ANY of the Bachelor & Bachelorettes’ relationship with the people they pick work out? I mean sure this was like the shortest ‘relationship’ which probably really wasn’t even one but hey! Guess what? They all broke up! What a shocker!

I feel sorry for Bobby & Dani though, cos I really like both of them.. (Bobby is SOOOOOO CUTE!) But hell, this IS TV. They’ll just have to live & learn. =)

Can’t wait to watch “That’s Amore” though.. LITTLE ITALY!!! Mr Italiano! He’s so funny.. & so weird.

You know.. I might just catch “A Shot At Love” season 2. Just for the kicks. ;p

Bobby Banhart needs his own show. He’s cute as hell. Really. So. Damn. Bloody. Cute.

BTW, this is my favorite scene from the show. They are so cute.

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他她 —– (完)

我到底怎麽了?竟然愛上一個我不敢愛也不該愛的人。我那麽久以來的自持能力到哪裏去了?可是我知道,我這次栽進這個漩渦裏,是怎麽也出不來的。

我知道他愛我。在他醒來之前我早已經醒了。只不過我不知道要怎樣反應,所以假裝熟睡。可是他摸着我的臉、捂着我的頭髮,輕聲對我說的那些話我都聽見了。

他愛我,我知道。但是我愛他嗎?

 

我已經2個月又13天沒有看到她了。她一定是後悔那天晚上的事。吼!我真是個白癡!我應該把她推開,應該把她塞進被褥裏然後立刻逃離現場。就不會有現在這樣的局面。

媽的!我真的要抓狂了!真的好想打電話給她,可是又怕尷尬,又怕她不肯聼我的電話。我真是他媽的俗仔!她也很久沒有上MSN了。鐵定是在避開我。可能還把我給擋掉了。我不敢問其他人她最近如何,怕被問出破綻。我不敢到她傢去看看,怕被趕出來。

可是那晚我表現應該還不錯吧?她,不是裝的吧?

我在沒自信什麽啊!??

 

我竟然沒有辦法忘記那天晚上的事。只要我閉上眼,那一夜的覆雨翻云就會好像電影一般在我眼前播放。我知道是我去挑逗他的。爲什麽?難道我想在我離開這個地方之前能把自己給他?難道我真得那麽想醒來第一眼看到的,就是他?難道我愛他嗎?他每晚都在 MSN上等我,我知道。我把自己放成了隱性模式,誰也不聊,就一直躊躇着要不要和他説話。唉!可是要我說什麽好呢?難道說謝謝那晚的回憶,我玩得很開心,要不要再來這樣的話?可是我是女生啊,縂要有些矜持吧。雖然我真得很想再來一次

算了吧。反正我過幾天就要走了。我不屬於這個地方,拖下去只會讓我們更痛苦。希望後天的送別,他不要來。

 

她要走了,我竟然不知道。不會吧!XX告訴我要為她辦個送別party時,我的驚訝一定他媽的寫在我臉上,他們都奇怪我爲什麽不知道她要走這件事。因爲他們一直認爲我們是好朋友。我只好推搪說我最近沒看到她,彼此都太忙了。這個爛理由連我自己都覺得不可信,他們怎麽會相信呢?我看我這次完蛋了。Party定在幾天后。去還是不去?

可是我好想見她。

今天的party人真的還蠻多的。我挺有人緣的嘛。可是有點累,回到房間偷一下閑。

我不要再騙自己了吧。其實是因爲看到他來了。我該怎麽做?太刻意避開彼此會不會奇怪?會不會露出馬腳?我想我們兩個都不向全世界的人知道我們的事把。他會對我說些什麽?怎麽辦?

唉!丑媳婦終究要見婆婆。就勇敢去面對吧!

 

昨晚的party我真的想了很久,終于敵不過想見她的念頭,所以去了。靠!她一看到我就逃走,好久好久才出來。完了!這下子我們連朋友都不能做了。我故意裝出輕鬆的樣子,寒暄了幾句,就假裝有事跑路!

他媽的膽小鬼。今天的送機我其實有去,只是好象電影橋斷般,躲在一旁,死都不肯出去。直到她入閘后,淚水竟然簌簌地流下。好丟臉。

 

 我已經回來好幾個月了。可是我每天都在想他。我如果當時放下矜持,不要猶豫的話,今天的結果會不會改變?我好想把時間回轉。如果我在他說“我愛你”的時候醒過來,那時候我們就可以順理成章在一起了。可是我終究要走的。遠距離的愛情,能長久嗎?

 

我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。我愛她。

我可以說100遍我愛她。可是有什麽用啊!她已經走了,已經回到了新加坡。好遙遠的地方啊。風說愛要勇敢去追。我敢嗎?

可是我想她想得我快瘋了!

我 過了我生平最快樂的一個禮拜。爲什麽?因爲他竟然跑來新加坡找我。儅我看到他站在我面前,我忍不住撲上去緊緊地抱住他,哭着叫他不要離開我。儅他說“我愛 你”的時候,什麽矜持全抛到九霄雲外。那晚,他輕撫我的身體,叫着我的名字,眼裏的熱情是用冰水也澆不息的。他的溫柔、他的獸性、他的飢渴,是我生平第一 次看過的。

有人說兩個人一起到高潮是很不容易卻又非常快樂的事。我從來不相信。可我現在相信了。那簡直像上了天堂般,兩個人不僅僅是肉體結合,甚至連心靈也結合了。

我們是不可能分開的。

我投降了。即使她是石觀音,我甘心被俘虜。

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