A Monumental Victory – For Love & Equality

There is only one thing I truly believe in – Equality.

I believe that we are all made equal in the eyes of the lord, no matter your religion. We are put on this earth for a reason and we each serve our own purpose. We inspire someone and make a difference to their lives. I do not believe in being prejudiced against someone simply because they are different.

Emotions such as love is, and should be, universal. Two willing parties fall in love and make the huge decision to want to spend the rest of their lives together, being the name that is written in the spouse section when filling out forms.Or even just to introduce their partner as their husband or wife, without having to feel guilty or judged. Everyone deserves to be treated the same in the eyes of the law, and nothing should get in the way of that.

We all deserve the right to love whoever we want. Nobody should have the right to take that away from us. Not especially if you are the majority. And I move to say that it is the responsibility of the stronger and more powerful majority to ensure that equal rights is something that is at the forefront of our minds. The majority needs to make the additional effort to understand and embrace the minority, because the minority has no choice but to assimilate. The majority is no more superior than the minority, the win is only in numbers.

We are who we are. It’s time for the majority to stop trying to change the minority to fit their idea of what is right. There is no right or wrong.

June 27th, 2015 – A day to remember, as we see the United States of America tell the rest of the world that they are still living the American Dream. Where everyone is free.


Why can’t relationships be simple?

Very often I wonder, why can’t relationships just be simple and straightforward. Why does interpersonal relationships have to be full of lies, avoidance, skirting around what is thought to be ‘sensitive’ topics. Sometimes I think I spend so much mental effort trying to second guess what the other person is thinking, feeling, intending, that sometimes I have nothing left for myself. And most times all the extra effort spent on trying to pre-determine what the other person’s reaction to a situation or words are all useless, because the results are the exact opposite of all that scenario running that I’ve done in my head. All that torture, just to realise that, at the end of the day, maybe it would have been better to just sit down face to face, and have a good honest chat.

It also baffles me how people are proactively plotting against other people, even those who have done nothing to harm them, just to ‘get ahead in life’. Why do we feel the need to elevate ourselves (in our own eyes) by putting down others? Is our society to such an extent that we are no longer able to feel honest joy for the accomplishments of others?To others we may even call our friends?

Even in love, things are complicated. Whatever happened to being honest about your feelings instead of being constantly afraid? We all fear rejection to some degree, but it’s my opinion that the fear is always greatest in your mind. Say it out and you might just find that the situation isn’t as bad as you expected. Yet, we are so frightened of the imaginary scenarios that we’ve played out in varying horrifying degrees in our minds.

Maybe I’m just naive, and think too lowly of the complicated human emotions. Maybe I’ve been living in a greenhouse, unexposed to the traumas of hardship and other such terrible things in life. Ironic that, as a Psychology student, I’m lamenting the complications of humans. After all, that is what makes human behaviour interesting enough to have an entire discipline around it.

I think I’m probably just jaded from all the games I have to play, just because society seems to demand that I play these games. I think this is also the primary reason the pool of people I actually call my friends has been shrinking over the years.


Why can’t they understand?

In the case of the Repeal of Section 377A, homosexuals are NOT campaigning for the rights to rule the country. They are not campaigning for the right to have same-sex marriages. They are just campaigning for the right to maintain privacy behind doors, and the right to do what they please without breaking the law.

When I read Mr Ho Kwon Ping’s article on TODAYonline yesterday, I was pleased to see the Chairman of Mediacorp stand up for what he believes in, to the extent of putting it up on national papers, though it isn’t The Straits Times. I applaud but honestly, I don’t think anyone in the rainbow club will believe that it will change anything.

Today, however, I came across this other article written in response to Mr Ho’s commentary. And with all due respect, I’m afraid I have to say, this is something about Christianity I don’t understand. I thought God teaches us to love all brothers and sisters unconditionally? That was what I was taught in 10 years of convent education. Of course, my education is far from the tip of the iceberg. But that was one consistent teaching I was given for 10 whole years of my primary to secondary life. Isn’t this prejudice & discriminatory? I don’t remember the Ten Commandments having anti-homosexuality in it. But of course, I have only wikipedia and the movie to guide me. Please, correct me if I’m wrong. I’m not well versed in Bible studies. Anyway, before I digress further, the point of this post is NOT about Christianity & homosexuality.

Mr Anton Chan has it all wrong. And I’m sure he’s not alone. Singaporeans have become so paranoid that they seem to think that everything that goes against their perception of normal is dangerous. Then again, philosophically speaking, what is normality? The Merriam Webster dictionary explains normal as b: conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern. Normality is relative.

What’s next? Same sex marriages?
Letter from Anton Chan

MR HO Kwon Ping is wrong to propose the acceptance of gays into Singapore society because accepting a gay lifestyle would have a tremendous impact on society as a whole in terms of religious beliefs, social well-being and families.

Being homosexual isn’t a lifestyle. Taking on a certain lifestyle means you have a choice. You pick & choose what type of actions you’d like to adopt. Being sporty is a lifestyle; clubbing is a lifestyle. Homosexuality is not. It’s a sexual orientation. You don’t pick & choose who you decide to fall in love with. Not unless you live in the past where nobody marries for love, only convenience. Yes, there are choices made. A choice of accepting yourself or not. That is the only choice to be made.

As a Christian, I oppose legalising a gay lifestyle in Singapore because it’s against my beliefs. As a father of three teenagers, I care because I don’t want my children to be affected by such a lifestyle.

Honestly, if your kid is gay, he’s gay. No matter whether you expose him to such a ‘lifestyle’ or not. If he is being oppressed to be straight, he’s going to suffer real pain inside. Furthermore you are opposing ‘legalising a gay lifestyle’ but we are for the legalising of an act, which is mutally consented between two adult males.

Imagine if we allow the acceptance of such a lifestyle in Singapore. What next? Legalise same sex marriages? Legalise adoption of children for gays?

Ah… I dont understand this line of thought. So, Belgium, Canada, Norway, South Africa, Spain, Massachusetts and California are all what.. beneath everyone else? Just because they legalise same-sex marriages? The last I know, Canada is a great place to live in.

Where are we as a socially-conservative society heading towards?

Erm… Acceptance of all as one? Liberalisation?

Soon gays will claim the right for social acceptance in all areas including education, welfare et cetera. What effect will this have on the next generation of children and parents who wish that their children will grow up normally and produce children in the normal course of their being?

In the first place, all Singapore citizens have the right in all areas such as education, welfare etc. So if I read this right, you’re suggesting that homosexuals are not supposed to be entitled to benefits that are given to ALL citizens? So they are, in your books, third-class ‘citizens’? Now I’m starting to get the picture. Also, your point of ‘produce children in the normal course of their being’ isn’t standing much. Heterosexuals are not having kids anyway, so what’s the fuss? If heterosexuals aren’t having kids and homosexuals would love to adopt one, hey! Good for the country’s population growth! 1 for the gays!

The only strong contention in Mr Ho’s proposal is the so-called gay leading edge in the “creative class”. Doesn’t our society have many other people to develop and nurture? Why are we so eager to promote creative class talent in Singapore? So that we can become a more tolerant society to accept whatever lifestyle these bring? Definitely no.

‘Why are we so eager to promote creative class talent in Singapore?’ I think that’s because if otherwise, Singaporeans will be nothing but robots toiling away at work. Your national day parade won’t look so grand & well put together, you won’t have performances to watch, no designers, no artists, no musicians. No Dick Lee! Oh then again, we could always import foreign talent, to put together our national day parade.

I would like to borrow a similar argument by Attorney-General Walter Woon regarding the Human Organ Transplant Act (Hota). In “None above the law” (Sept 8), he said: “If Dr Lee (Wei Ling) disagrees with Hota, she is at perfect liberty to campaign to have it amended … But until Parliament amends or repeals the Hota and the Oaths and Declarations Act, they remain the law of Singapore.”

If anyone disagrees with the law for gays as enacted by Parliament, he/she is at perfect liberty to campaign to have it amended … But until Parliament amends or repeals the law of Singapore for gays, it remains the law of Singapore.

The thing is, the law is quite ridiculous if you don’t enforce it. What’s the point of having a law that is in black & white, yet you tell everyone in the country that you will not be prosecuting the offenders? It’s like saying rape is illegal yet people are free to do it. So why is it illegal in the first place?

It’s hypocritical to have a law to make conservatives happy, and turn around and tell those affect that they will not be prosecuted, so please continue to bring back glory for the country. Please continue to make waves in the international scene. Singapore wants to be number 1 in everything, but no, we will not repeal Section 377a. As the government, they should be doing what they preach. Singapore is conservative? Okay fine. Then prosecute all who do not abide by the law and stick to it. Don’t want to encroach on their privacy so will not prosecute? Then don’t even have this law in the first place. What a cognitively dissonant country we live in. *Sigh*


A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila

Okay.. So I slept at 3am yesterday, or rather, today. All because of one woman, one show. MTV’s “A Shot At Love with Tila Tequila”.

Firstly, who is Tila Tequila??? Tila’s what they call internet celebrity. She got famous on MySpace and then spurned off a career of apparently modeling and singing. None of which probably really took off. She’s like the more slutty & bitchy & famous version of Xia Xue.She’s also got better looking ass than her but that’s beside the point.

What is the show about? In public it’s Tila’s quest for true love… *rolleyes* And because she is, get this, BISEXUAL, she gets 16 straight men & 16 lesbians to come on the show to fight for her heart. Because she doesn’t know what gender she wants to end up with. Riiiiigggghhhhttttt….

The show is hilariously funny & I’d say it has all the elements of a great reality TV series. There is lots of hot men & women, drama, tears, scream and hair tearing, pushing, fighting, kissing, making out, booze.. ALL THE WORKS. All in one 10 episode show. And obviously lots of skin. And catfight. Oooooo I love catfights. We women really know how to fight.

But anyway, the show ended with Bobby (CUTE AS HELL) winning. Here come the big BUT. Apparently, he broke up with her a few days before New Year’s Eve and she had to announce it during her NYE masquerade party. AND at the same time, announcing that she’s coming back for “A Shot At Love” Season 2. Puuuuurrrrfect timing.

So now everyone’s talking about it.. Just Google “Tila Tequila Bobby Broke Up” and you get a whole string of results. Some of the comments are hellava funny. Seriously guys.. Did anyone EVER think that they will actually work out? Come on….. Gimmie a break. It’s Reality TV for goodness sake. Has ANY of the Bachelor & Bachelorettes’ relationship with the people they pick work out? I mean sure this was like the shortest ‘relationship’ which probably really wasn’t even one but hey! Guess what? They all broke up! What a shocker!

I feel sorry for Bobby & Dani though, cos I really like both of them.. (Bobby is SOOOOOO CUTE!) But hell, this IS TV. They’ll just have to live & learn. =)

Can’t wait to watch “That’s Amore” though.. LITTLE ITALY!!! Mr Italiano! He’s so funny.. & so weird.

You know.. I might just catch “A Shot At Love” season 2. Just for the kicks. ;p

Bobby Banhart needs his own show. He’s cute as hell. Really. So. Damn. Bloody. Cute.

BTW, this is my favorite scene from the show. They are so cute.

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我竟然沒有辦法忘記那天晚上的事。只要我閉上眼,那一夜的覆雨翻云就會好像電影一般在我眼前播放。我知道是我去挑逗他的。爲什麽?難道我想在我離開這個地方之前能把自己給他?難道我真得那麽想醒來第一眼看到的,就是他?難道我愛他嗎?他每晚都在 MSN上等我,我知道。我把自己放成了隱性模式,誰也不聊,就一直躊躇着要不要和他説話。唉!可是要我說什麽好呢?難道說謝謝那晚的回憶,我玩得很開心,要不要再來這樣的話?可是我是女生啊,縂要有些矜持吧。雖然我真得很想再來一次

















我 過了我生平最快樂的一個禮拜。爲什麽?因爲他竟然跑來新加坡找我。儅我看到他站在我面前,我忍不住撲上去緊緊地抱住他,哭着叫他不要離開我。儅他說“我愛 你”的時候,什麽矜持全抛到九霄雲外。那晚,他輕撫我的身體,叫着我的名字,眼裏的熱情是用冰水也澆不息的。他的溫柔、他的獸性、他的飢渴,是我生平第一 次看過的。